Humility is the ability to be confident, yet modest of self-opinion and importance. This is an intentional practice. Humility is activated by the individual as they own their mistakes, accept feedback, and elevate others.
Owning mistakes takes an act of courage. Humble people can readily admit when they are wrong without having to cast the blame on others or look for a “fall guy.” They do not have to compare their mistake with that of another to try and downplay their error. Apologizing is not a sign of weakness but rather of strength and confidence. Being able to accept one’s faults allows for personal growth and development to continue. Among the fruitful results of this trait are admiration and respect from peers, colleagues, and leaders.
Criticism can be difficult to receive; however, humility empowers a person to accept negative and positive feedback. By listening to what is being conveyed, weighing its worth, and implementing advice, you can take any feedback and make it constructive. A humble person knows they are not perfect and will strive instead for excellence. Excellence is always doing your best despite the imperfections.
A person with modest confidence can step back as they elevate another. Being able to recognize the contributions of others without having to seek personal accolades is a sign of humility and leadership. Giving or sharing the credit with others can build trusting relationships of appreciation and friendship among those whom you work with and serve.
When I was younger, I worked in an orthodontic practice. Being new on the job as well as my first time in a professional work environment, I was slightly intimidated and wanted to make a good impression. However, I was totally not doing that right. Putting pressure on myself to be perfect and showing the team that I knew what I was doing closed the door for me to learn and mistakes were made often. In an effort to defend my faults, I was becoming a burden to my team, as they were having to pay the price along with me to correct the errors. One day the doctor invited me into his office to inform me that my job was “on the line” and that I needed to quickly make an adjustment in my attitude or I would have to find other employment. That conversation humbled me, as I strived to improve my teachability, team spirit, and personal integrity. I received the criticism that was given and began to put his advice into practice. I gave credit to team members who helped me with challenging procedures and began to encourage them with words of affirmation and appreciation. Shortly after, the doctor once again invited me into his office for another conversation. This time he shared that I had made the quickest change and adjustment of anyone he had ever seen. Those words were priceless as I realized I did not need to impress; I just needed to learn to do my best. Humility paved a way for that to happen as personal growth and development resulted.
I encourage you today to be humble in your heart and spirit. You will go far in life as you learn to own your mistakes, take criticism, and elevate others. Let’s keep growing and going. It’s a good time to be you!
Peace and Joy,
Coach Angela